I have been told by many that this is a flaw. I refuse to see it that way. I refuse to believe that because I am loyal and care that it is a bad thing.
I will drop anything for a friend in need or when my partner is in need. There is very little I won't drop if I can physically be there for someone; yes this includes university work. I would drop anything to know that my loved ones are okay and to be there for them. Some might view this as stupid, and that's okay.
I view myself as a good friend because of it. My friends and partner should always know that I will be there always. Whether its a phone call, a hug, or advice that they need. Sometimes you just need a bit of love and support to get through the day. And there's nothing wrong with that.
To be a good friend I believe it is a necessity that you are there to support your friends and loved ones, whether that is to the extent I do or not it doesn't matter. I believe you have to be a very open-minded person and a very understanding person.
Judging a friend or loved one constantly isn't being a good friend. I believe and have been told, that I am a very understanding and open-minded person. I will never judge a friend by a few actions, only by overall character. And I will never judge someone by their mental health or thoughts related to that. I believe your character means more than all of this.
Mental health is something no one should be judged for, not ever. Whether you have dark and unwanted thoughts in your head or do certain things because of a mental health problem, it does not matter. No one should ever be judged by that. I will only support people in this situation. It is not their fault. It sucks when they don't take your advice or don't want to do anything about it, it really does. But I don't believe anyone should have to deal with more pain because of such things.
Please always stick by your loved ones when they need you, even if you don't necessarily agree with some of the things they think or do. It is unlikely to last. Stand by them, go with them to talk to someone if they need you, talk to them yourself. But never judge.
Remember the good times and not the bad; as there will be far more good memories.
Always love your friends from your heart, and never use them for your gain. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Give them second chances if you can.
By no means am I a pushover, not in my opinion. I am patient and lenient towards my loved ones, but I know when enough is enough. I am loyal to a point that may be seen as stupid and there is little that will cause me to dislike someone or not love them.
People have flaws, it's what makes us human. And I want to know all of my loved ones' flaws. All of them. Because I love them more for them.
My partner is my priority in life, along with my friends. But my partner is someone who I will prioritize a tiny bit more.
If I am dating someone I'm dating them because I see a future. And I want them to stay in my life and I in theirs. I take a while to fall in love, but when I do I love deeply and unconditionally. I will stand by my partner through thick and thin, there is nothing that they can do to make me not love them.
Again, I know when enough is enough. I know what I can and cannot handle, and I know what I can and cannot tolerate.
I want my relationships to be healthy. Whether it is a friendship or a romantic relationship. I want to be able to push each other and strive to be better people. To be kind to each other and everyone else. To be social together and apart. To challenge each other in the best ways. To support and stand by one another. I will stand by them if they stand by me. And I will love them no matter what.
It is not easy, I will never say that. It is very stressful and I cause myself a lot of anxiety and mental health issues over it, but I believe it is worth it. If a friend or loved one feels better or can take something good away from our relationship, then I have done good and I am happy with that success.
Never call me weak or pathetic because of my feelings or my dedication to my relationships. I am not. I am strong and to feel is to be strong, to be numb is to be weak. I allow myself to feel so much because it makes my life better in the long run.
I am not perfect, no one is, and there is nothing wrong with that.
That is just who I am.
I do not see it as a bad thing.
Whether it is a flaw or not, I am unlikely to change this aspect of my life.
I am content.
"As water reflects the face, so one's life reflects the heart."
Proverbs 27:19
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